Why don’t you like penises? Why do you find penises disgusting?
Are you a survivor of trauma? And this is still iffy because by associating female genitalia with male abuse and rape culture, you’re affirming that you think gender is biological and essentialist and are misgendering trans women as a class. Stop that plskthx.
Are you dysphoric and don’t like to be reminded of genitalia you don’t want or can’t have? That’s fair, in which case a lot of negotiation would have to take place, but it would be a place of mutual understanding. However you sound very cis, so I don’t think you can claim this.
Are you repulsed by genitalia in general? (and I mean all genitalia- specific repulsion is fueled by transmisogyny) It’s possible for allo people to be repulsed by genitalia, but once more, the specific aversion to penises gets applied to women when there is zero connection between her penis and masculinity. You’re misplacing your fear and disgust of men. And it harms trans women.
So if you answer no to all of the above, then you are a transmisogynist.
Don’t place the onus of desirability on trans women who have yet to transition or will never transition- that’s classist and racist and ableist. Also, the way you frame the situation of her genitalia as “transitioning” as if her current or former genitalia were not female, is transmisogynistic.
Why wouldn’t you have sex with a woman with a penis? Do you think the only kind of sex is PiV? How do you know what a trans woman is into? What if she’s exclusively into going down on girls? What if she’s into being tied down and being rimmed? You never know. And to assume that there’s no chance she might be triggered by the mention or use of her penis if she has dysphoria is really super gross, grayface.
Oh, and this isn’t the paleolithic period; protection exists! Even so, many transitional hormones would probably interfere with the fertility of a trans woman. If that’s your strongest argument- which is flimsier than a wet noodle- then I’m going to have to ask you to take a vow of celibacy.
The REACHINg today Lord. Stop making up scenarios where sex with a trans women is some impossible feat. You’re really sensationalizing something that’t not that big of a deal.
But this proves my earlier points. That vast majority of cisbians who are weary of penises and/or trans women in bed, are ones that associate them with men. This is an act of misgendering, and it is an act of violence. It is transmisogyny.
What the actual fuck.